There Are Always Positives – #CelebrateTheSmallThings – 13 March 2015


DontThinkLast week, I just couldn’t bring myself to post anything on this subject. It was extremely hard to find anything positive worth writing about. Don’t get me wrong. I found the smallest of positives. The sun came up every day with me on this side of the ground. Beautiful weather came back. I have the love of my family and friends. I just couldn’t find anything worthy of writing about.

I posted that in my Facebook group, and then I had several people open my eyes. I helped another caregiver friend, again, with her own issues she’s going through. I guess because it’s in my nature, I just don’t see it as a big thing to celebrate. And out of all the frustrating things that happened over last week, another lady kindly reminded me that I didn’t beat someone upside the head or ended up in the back of the hall closet whimpering. Definitely a win.

So there’s last week’s celebration. On to this weeks!

It started off pretty disastrous really, with TheHubs’ admitting to me that he gets a severe anxiety attack just going to check the mail. I wrote about it this week. It helped me get through it. That, and the fact that I finally managed to get him to see my therapist. So that’s a good thing. Now, I hope he likes him and will want to help himself through this. I know the pain will never go away but his attitude about it may change, eventually. If he will help himself. And this is the first step to that process.

This therapy session MUST be working, though, because I woke up on Wednesday morning to find him working on his book again. He hasn’t done that in over a year. I was giddy but didn’t show it because I didn’t want to jinx it.

And to top it all off, he asked me to take a few days off during TheBoy’s Spring break next week so we could do something. I asked what. He just shrugged. So I’ve been planning a day trip, since that’s all that TheHubs’ can muster, really. Maybe an overnight trip. I think I’ve got it pretty much figured out. We travel 3.5 hours to the Florida Caverns and spend the day there. If we stay overnight, then the next day we could go to Shell Island in Panama City. It’s on the Gulf Coast and I’ve never been there yet. So it will be an all new experience for all of us. I’d love to go back to The Keys, but that’s more of a long weekend thing. Maybe next time. I’m a bit excited. And nervous. And worried he won’t enjoy himself because of the pain. But we’re going to try. And try is better than not.

Wish us luck!

What are you celebrating this week? 

Thank you to our lovely host, Lexa Cain for taking over and continuing the Celebrate the Small Things blog hop. I would also like to thank her co-hosts, L.G. Keltner @ Writing Off The Edge and Katie @ TheCyborgMom – without them, I’m sure this would be a daunting task!

To be part of this blog hop, all you have to do is put your name on the linky list on Lexa’s Blog, and then post every Friday about something you’re grateful  for that week.  It can be about writing or family or school or general life.  This is the funnest and easiest blog hop ever! (Originated by VikLit)

LadyJai

9 thoughts on “There Are Always Positives – #CelebrateTheSmallThings – 13 March 2015

  1. Katie thecyborgmom

    Good to hear that he’s talking to a therapist. Sometimes just talking to someone who is outside the situation is helpful. I saw a therapist years ago and we didn’t always talk about my “problems”…sometimes I just talked…and someone heard me…and that helped. I hope you have a great time on your little mini getaway! Praying for pain free days for all of us!

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  2. Tyrean Martinson

    Seeing the positives has to start with small things. A little sunshine, a day of being patient with others (or at least not venting at them) . . .those are actually pretty big things. Sometimes, I’m just thankful for being able to breathe, to live, and to open my eyes.

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  3. dcrelief

    Hi Jaime. This is what I love about this bloghop – reading about others’ challenges and celebrations!

    >>… “I didn’t beat someone upside the head or ended up in the back of the hall closet whimpering. Definitely a win.”

    Love that statement!! I’m so glad to hear, even of small progress with your family. Reading this post makes me tear up – so, so happy for you!!! (smile).

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    1. LadyJai Post author

      I agree, Dixie. I love celebrating other’s positives with them! It’s so wonderful! And you’re right, that statement is just wonderful! I can’t take the credit, my fellow caregivers said it. But it’s so true! 😛 Thanks for reading! ❤

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  4. lexacain

    Check you out! You’re so mature, thankful, and optimistic — even when you aren’t. (‘Coz no one can be all the time.) There are ups and downs, and you’re rolling with them amazingly. I hope the therapy continues to go well and that you get to go on a vacation. 🙂

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  5. Candace Gauger

    Do or do not. There is no try. -Yoda

    Just the fact he wants to do something outside of the house is worth a short trip anywhere. All of you need this. Just be prepared for anything and have fun.

    You can do this. Have fun!

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