Family, Friends, and Strangers – #CelebrateTheSmallThings – 27 Feb 2015


This is the last post during the month of Love. My original plans for today’s post was to talk about the love of and for my parents. But life always gets in the way of things, especially when you are a caregiver. But this time, life threw me a curve ball. It decided to rain happiness a few days this week instead of the normal caregiving issues and stress. Oh, don’t get me wrong, I’ve had my fair share of that happening in my life this week, too. But this is not a post to focus on those. Today, we focus on the LOVE and positive, small or large, they all are worth celebrating.

photo 4First off, I want to say that without my parents, I wouldn’t be who I am today. Without their love and teachings, I don’t think I would know love, or at the very least, I would not have had the pleasure of experiencing love until much later in life. My father was a smart man. He knew he would be stuck if he didn’t get out of Pittsburgh. He also knew that he did NOT want to be drafted into the Marines, or the Army, and surely not the Navy. So after graduating high school, he enlisted into the Air Force. My mom wanted to get married before he was shipped off to Vietnam. But again, my father was the smart one. He told her “not until you graduate high school”. She had a year and a half left, I think. This gave my father time to go through basic and his tech school, as well as his tour in Nam. Once he returned home, they were married. And a few years later I was born. I grew up as a BRAT and I have always been proud of that. I thank my father for the blessings of travelling the world, growing up in a better education system than most, and understanding other cultures first hand. I got to do and see a lot more than most Americans.

It prepared me for my marriage. I knew what I was getting into, to an extent. I would follow my husband to the ends of the earth with him. While the Air Force and the Army are so very different in the way they view family, many traits are the same. Without my BRAT life, I would not understand that change is the only constant, how everything is hurry up and wait, and how the needs of the military come first. Without my mother’s undying love for my father, her willingness to accept everything that the military threw at them, and her constant role model for what a marriage is all about, I may not have grown up to love my husband that same way. I love you mom and dad!24

Second, I submitted a poem to O’Dark Thirty, a Veteran’s Writing Project publication, back in October 2014. Wednesday I started considering contacting them since it had been four months. Things got busy and I didn’t that day. When I got home from work, I had an email from them saying they wanted to publish it. I was ecstatic! This is my first poetry acceptance. I will let you all know when and where you can read it once I know.

That same day, I received a card in the mail from another wife and veteran caregiver. She’s part of my only support group through Courage Beyond.

You know how we always wonder if what we say or do matters, if we ever mean (really mean) anything to someone, and if we touch someone’s heart? Those moments that someone notices, acknowledge, and actually takes the time to reach out and say something nice to someone else is far and few between nowadays it seems. And I don’t care how you do it. Sribblings on a napkin, crayon drawings, typed or handwritten, or a simple hug and a thank you. You never know how much it means. You never think that a simple smile could change someone’s whole day, even outlook on life. And then, one day, it happens. I received this beautiful card and letter in the mail today. I cried happy tears. Even though she’s still comparing, and thinks her words are silly, I reassure you, they are MOST DEFINITELY NOT! Any words that come from the heart are THE MOST BEAUTIFUL you could ever utter or write.HappyLetter

I love you, Rachel. May you continue on your positive journey and see the beauty that is you….always!
To top that off, I am learning what friends are all over again. It’s been many, MANY years since I’ve had a good friend that I can open up to. I’m learning that not only I can help them in their times of need, but I can open up to them when I’m having a down moment. Last week, I helped my friend, Beth, through a tough time, talking to her on the phone trying to calm her down through the tears, as well as making sure she was ok to drive home so late at night from the spontaneous trip she had to take because of the news. She was surprised that someone cared enough to make sure she was ok to drive. She didn’t really know what to do. But for me, I cannot imagine no one caring enough to do that. And then, this week, I had a moment of my own. A big fat ugly cry came. And I opened up to her. She walked me through it, talked me calm again. And even made me smile. The thing I still seem to not be able to get over is that I still apologize for dumping on her. And yet, I don’t ever think people are dumping on me when they need my help. My brain is definitely broken. But I’m working on it. I love you, Beth!
As for strangers? Well, I’m celebrating the an oops moment. I’ve been leaving positive motivational post-it notes in public places for a while now. Last week, when it was really cold here, my fibromyalgia kicked in big time. It was so bad I couldn’t hold a pen to write, it hurt so bad. So I thought it would be cool to have business cards with a nice saying on them that I could leave around the same way. The only thing I didn’t consider was how I was going to affix them to anything. (If you have any ideas, I’m all ears! hehe) So, the oops is that I picked the phrase, and went to VistaPrint and designed them. I thought I had one more screen before I placed the order, but oops, nope! I ordered them. Not too bad really. I just have to come up with a way to affix them out in public now.
What are you celebrating this week? 

Thank you to our lovely host, Lexa Cain for taking over and continuing the Celebrate the Small Things blog hop. I would also like to thank her co-hosts, L.G. Keltner @ Writing Off The Edge and Katie @ TheCyborgMom – without them, I’m sure this would be a daunting task!

To be part of this blog hop, all you have to do is put your name on the linky list on Lexa’s Blog, and then post every Friday about something you’re grateful  for that week.  It can be about writing or family or school or general life.  This is the funnest and easiest blog hop ever! (Originated by VikLit)

LadyJai

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4 thoughts on “Family, Friends, and Strangers – #CelebrateTheSmallThings – 27 Feb 2015

  1. Wesley (dad) and sandy ( mom)

    THANK YOU, MY LOVING DAUGHTER FOR ALL THE ACCOLADES YOU GAVE US. ITS A PLESSURE TO READ ALL YOUR WRITINGS AND WE ARE VERY PLEASED ON YOUR WRITTING ACHIEVEMENTS. WE LOVE YOU ALL. SO DON’T GET DOWN ON YOURSELF BECAUSE ALWAYS SOMETHING POSITIVE COMES FROM OUR PAIN.

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  2. dcrelief

    You could glue o tiny magnets or use gummy dots… like they use to attach a bank card to a letter, sent to you. Tiny frames that sit on a desk… maybe small necklaces encassed in plastic. I’m just guessing. (Smile) Love your celebration!!

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  3. lexacain

    What a lovely tribute to your parents. Your dad really does sound like a smart guy. (My dad was in the AF too. But flew to Korea, not ‘Nam.) Congrats on your poetry acceptance! That’s awesome! Keep writing and submitting!

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  4. Beth

    Crying happy tears here. I’m so glad our paths crossed last year. My life would not be the same without our talks and your support. Love you to the moon and back again twice!

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